2016年5月6日星期五
Sugar Daddy: how to handle the first dinner date
Any first date is
loaded with pressure. Should you order the garden salad or opt for a cup of the
pungent french onion soup? Do you go in for a kiss, or end with a hug? You
never quite know how to make things progress 100 percent smoothly, but you can
do your best to ensure the date is survivable. We’ve thrown together our top
five suggestions to ensure your potential Sugar Baby see’s the light of a
second date.
1: Don’t eat with the speed of an industrial strength vacuum cleaner.
Don’t eat with the
speed of an industrial strength vacuum cleaner. The way you dine is a metaphor
for the way you make love so make sure you don’t do so in a way that brings to
mind a lower primate, or in the case of us gals, an epicurean version of Lorena
Bobbit. Do eat slowly and sensuously and make eye contact. Remember that dining
together is a form of foreplay.
2: Don’t go over your limit
The first dinner
date is not the time to drink and party like you did in college. This is a meal
that is to be shared between two mature adults. Sugar Daddies, avoid any
behaviors that could incite an argument if you clearly see that your date is
getting a bit tipsy. Do not keep the drinks coming if your date is an obvious
lightweight. Be respectful, order a cab for her, and reconnect when she’s back
to her usual self. The last thing either party should want to do is say or do
anything that could prevent a good thing from happening before it’s even
started.
3: Do be discreet
Paying or tipping
should always be done as smoothly and as subtly as possible. Do not make
clumsy, boarish errors such as arguing over how much each person owes (read:
you’re cheap), using large bills to pay for small checks (read: you’re showy),
or gregariously grabbing the check out of the waiter’s hand to demonstratively
pay with your credit card. Such behavior makes people feel beholden and
uncomfortable. Just pay the check, move it to one side, and be done with it.
4: Do plan for the best
If things go well,
then what? Say you’re having an amazing night that you want never to end.
Great! Unfortunately, the lights are up, the tables are empty—and the waiters
are yawning. It’s time to leave, and nothing makes you look cooler or sexier
than knowing a great bowling alley/wine bar/pool hall just around the corner!
Now is the time to mention that your former roommate bartends two blocks away
to see if your date’s up to continuing the fun. Being prepared can help stretch
a good time into a great evening.
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2016年5月5日星期四
Sugar Daddy: How to put my sugar baby in a corner
There are times you want to have a new sugar baby, or you
want to have a relationship with a woman you don’t have a paid arrangement
with. There are other times you may simply want to be free or you’re just tired
of the sugar baby you have. It happens to everyone at some point, and there’s
no reason to feel bad about it. Ultimately, you need to be classy about how you
tell her it’s over. Following a few simple steps will get you out of your
agreement and leave her satisfied.
1: break off her in person
Crucially, to avoid a woman scorned scenario, break it
off with her in person – don’t send the dreaded break up text and then avoid
all calls. Take her out to dinner and explain that you care for her and her
feelings so you don’t want to hurt her because you can’t feel the same way she
does. Make her feel like you are considering her feelings, being very courteous
rather than stringing her along. Add that there are many other sugar daddies
out there who would be glad to have a relationship with her, someone who is
more deserving of her than you are. Someone who can give her all her needs,
where you are failing. This will help her feel it is actually positive for her.
Perhaps even give her something that you know is her favorite, to soften the blow
further. You should part dinner very amicably. Also ending it on a nice
mutually agreeable level might leave the door open for one-off meets in the
future should you so desire.
2: Tell her you have a new sugar baby.
Tell her you have a new sugar baby, though this might add
fuel to the fire. But one thing it will do is help her realize you are 100%
serious and have moved on. You don’t want to start an unseemly public cat fight
so make sure they don’t meet. If she’s still acting up tell her you will report
her to whatever site you met her through, which will mess up her chances of
landing a new sugar daddy in the future. She won’t want to mess up that, trust
me. It will also act as a document in case you have to go the legal route.
3: Moving forward
Not all breakups will end badly. Sometimes it is as
simple as a quick
hug
and saying “goodbye.” If there is an occasional gift that pops up, consider
donating any remaining items, and return newer items if possible. If these
breakups are a repeat thing, consider speaking with a counselor to set a plan
for what you want vs what you need in a relationship (traditional or
otherwise). Remember: the definition of insanity is repeating the same actions
and expecting different results. If this is your first time going through the
Sugar Breakup, this will likely hold the sting of breaking up with a
girlfriend. This is someone you’ve spent quality time with, let them in on your
deepest thoughts, and likely looked forward to being around at some of your
most vulnerable moments. It’s okay to run through the conversation a few times in
your head. It’s okay to have a few nights out with the guys. Rest in knowing
that your future holds more fun. Avoid stalking your former Sugar Baby on
Facebook or “showing up” at the coffeeshop you know she frequents each Saturday.
Remember, you do not have to be stuck in an arrangement
with a Sugar Baby. You can end the relationship at any time, but you should do
so with class. Tell her why you can’t be with her and explain to her this is a
good thing for her, too. Do it in person and give her a nice goodbye gift.
Ending things this way will keep you on her good list should you ever miss her
in the future, and it will make you feel better about how you left things.
2016年5月4日星期三
Sugar Daddy: How to manage multiple sugar babies
Slowly but surely,
society is coming to the realization that monogamy isn’t the norm for everyone.
We’re all about helping you manage your relationships, even if that means more
than one. It’s not cheating if you’re honest, right? The stereotype of men who
date multiple women is that they’re players, or womanizers. While that does
describe some men, it isn’t always true. A man can date multiple women and
still treat them as a gentleman should; all without letting the intake effect
the quality of his dating game. Here are some tips for managing multiple Sugar
Babies.
1: Make each of your sugar
babies feel like they’re your only one
While she may be
aware you’re sharing your sugar with another Sugar Baby, it’s generally
preferable to most babies to feel like their Sugar Daddy is theirs alone. To
help further this along, be sure not to come to your date smelling like another
one, or feeling too spent from a late night date with a different Sugar baby the
evening before to be any fun for her. You’ll also want to avoid too many
scheduling difficulties. If everytime she asks you to meet up you already have
plans, she’ll get the impression that she’s not that important to you and go
off to find some sweeter sugar. In order to avoid this, you’ll want to be clear
about your availability and how you handle unscheduled meet ups with each of
your sugar babies from the start. This will clarify expectations all around and
keep your babies feeling like they’re your only one, even though they know
they’re probably not.
2: Make room for mystery
Having an open
communication policy is always good, but making
contact everyday
can get confusing in a relationship that is not exclusive. Let her wonder where
you are and what you’re doing, and don’t text or call everyday. If you don’t
have time to talk everyday, make this clear from the start and hope she
understands. If you do talk everyday, it’s acceptable provided she knows that
will not make the relationship exclusive.
3: Don’t take more sugar than
you can handle
As we all know,
too much sugar is not a good thing for anybody; the same is true for sugar
arrangements. You may get a lot of fun from a variety of different sugar babies.
But please don’t take on more than you can handle at any one time. If you do,
you’ll be spoiling the sugar fun for everyone involved. To avoid taking on too
much sugar, it’s essential that you be very careful as you add more sugar
babies to your roster. Consider the time you have available and the needs of
each baby before agreeing to be their Sugar Daddy. By the same token, if you do
decide to take on a second, or third sugar baby, and it ends up being too much
for you, call it off as soon as possible so you can prevent the nasty effects
of sugar overload for all involved.
4: Be a gentleman
You can be dating
as many women as you want, and as long as you treat them well you won’t hear a
single complaint. Having options doesn’t entitle you to be a jerk because you
know you have a dozen replacements. Give her attention and favorable treatment
at all times, that way she’ll like
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2016年5月3日星期二
Dos and Don’ts for a Sugar Daddy
Whether you’re an
experienced Sugar Daddy, or you’re
new to this type of dating arrangement, you’ll want to make sure you follow
some simple guidelines, some spoken and some unspoken, that will help you get
and keep a satisfying relationship with your Sugar Baby.
Dos: be clear about expectations on time commitment.
Yes, your time is
money, so is her’s. Keep in mind that she has other factors in life aside from
being a Sugar Baby companion. Set up a meeting schedule that works for both of
you.
Don’t: think that you
are entitled to sex on the first date
If you are looking
for a quick fix, they have services for that. Sugar Babies are looking for a
benefactor who can add value to their lives. Not a John looking to score a
quick hook-up.
Dos: be 100% upfront and honest
The only way to
have a successful arrangement with a Sugar Baby is to be honest and upfront. When
you know what you want in your arrangement (and you should know exactly what
you want before you start looking), you can express your needs openly,
honestly, and there are absolutely no repercussions, only a yes or a no. Being
able to say what you want and what you can give to Sugar Baby was so liberating
and it saves a tremendous amount of time weeding out people who aren’t on the
same page as you as far as an arrangement is concerned.
Don’ts: no call, no how
One would think
that any man with enough disposable income to become a Sugar Daddy would have
the manners to let a woman know if he is going to be late or not show up at
all. Unfortunately, it happens more often than not. If something does come up,
or if you have lost interest, have the courtesy to let the girl know.
Dos: spoil her because she deserves it, not because she wants it
This separates the
Splenda from Sugar. A Sugar Baby should never have to ask her Sugar Daddy to
take her shopping, on a vacation, or to a nice dinner. If she wants to have to
nag someone to spoil her, then she would be in a conventional relationship.
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2016年4月29日星期五
Sugar Daddy: Is she your Sugar Baby or just a gold digger
As a Sugar Daddy,
you are rich, successful. And there are always pretty girls around you; you can
find your sweet sugar baby easily. But have you ever been suspicious that the
person you are dating is more interested in your money than in you? Is she a
real sugar baby or just a gold digger? If you are concerned about this and want
to find out, here are some ideas to accomplish this and protect yourself before
it is too late.
1: She always has many reasons for having money.
She always has a
sob story for why she needs more money, or why she needs it sooner. While
there are instances where even the sweetest of Sugar Babies can find herself in
a bit of a tough spot, a gold digger is a professional con artist, and these
sob stories will pile in almost weekly. Also, don’t be surprised if she
has a new designer bag on her wrist next time you see her after helping her pay
for sudden car repairs.
2: She has no career aspiration
A gold digger
clearly lacks goals short of getting the next check to cash. Motivated Sugar
Babies have a goal in mind when entering the Sugar Bowl, whether it’s finishing
school, building her own business, or as simple as getting out of debt. There is one goal a gold digger may have that
you should be weary of, securing steady cash flow through marriage or a bouncy
bundle of joy. That’s at least 18 years
of steady monthly “allowance”.
3: Her friends are gold-digger
You can tell a lot
about a woman by meeting people from her closest
circle. If a girl
has a lot of friends that are only after men for their money, she will likely
have this same attitude. People attract others that have things in common with.
If her buddy, especially her best friend, is a gold-digger, you need to tread
lightly.
In the end, do
keep in mind, just because she comes to the table with needs in the arrangement
does not make her a gold digger. It means that she has a clear understanding of
the workings of a mutually beneficial relationship. While it’s always best to keep a look out for
these flags, you would be doing yourself a disservice to overlook some of the
prime Sugar Babies on Sudy for fear
of tasting a little salt.
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2016年4月28日星期四
Sugar Daddy: if you’re not George Clooney, how to date after divorce
Divorce isn’t a
single-forever sentence. Still, it can be intimidating to re-enter the world of
dating.
1: Make sure you’re ready
It sounds like
trite advice, but it’s worth following: Don’t date
until you’re ready
to date. You want to set yourself up for success. If you’re serious about
finding love again, make sure you understand where you are in the healing
process. Do you understand what went wrong in your last relationship? Are you
aware of your role in the marriage’s end? Can you identify what a healthy
relationship needs to look like for you? Give yourself the freedom of a little
time and make sure your past is firmly in the past, along with the infamous
“bitterness baggage,” before giving love a second chance.
2: Love yourself
Love yourself.
Sometimes it’s easier said than done. Take a new class, get a new haircut, and
eat healthier than ever. With the life changes you’ve gone through, make sure
you’re taking the time to focus on you. Learn to thrive in your new situation.
Dress in a way that makes you feel good about what you see in the mirror.
Switch up your daily routine so you’re not stuck in past patterns and ruts by
default, and choose to surround yourself with the people and things that
inspire you.
3: Stay positive — and be up for the adventure
It doesn’t matter
how old you are or what your relationship history is, first dates are
nerve-wracking. Give yourself a pre-date pep talk, reminding yourself of the
great qualities you have to offer. Stay positive, embrace the adventure, expect
a few disappointments, and see your life as an unfolding story, one that will
be worth telling.
4: Be honest
Divorce is rarely
a deal-breaker in the dating world. It’s a sad but
very real fact
that about half of marriages end, so prospective partners are often prepared to
date people who’ve been married before. While you probably shouldn’t spill
intimate details of your marriage’s demise on a first date, be honest and open
(if/when appropriate) about the fact that you’re divorced. Don’t judge yourself
on your date’s behalf; you’ll likely be surprised at the empathy and grace
extended in response to your honesty. Everyone’s experienced heartache; it’s
okay to be a little vulnerable about what yours looks like.
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